bennington, vt.

Sunday, April 24, 2011

pool of tears

The screaming, yelling, cursing . . .
The denying my parentage . . .
The denying that I have any intelligence . . .
The denying of my humanity . . .
(demon and devil were mentioned)

We try to let it go, and blame the Dementia . . .
but this time it was one step beyond
and I lost myself to tears.
I sobbed as I bathed him,
and he realized he'd gone too far . . . 
he tried to explain himself and apologize . . .

This is NOT dementia.

Now, when you go to a Doctor,
they ask if anyone is abusing you at home.

"Hmmm, my 87 year old Father kicks, hits, and scratches me . . . we won't even mention the verbal abuse."

Yeah, right.

I question my sanity.


PS
the topper yesterday, was . . .
once again someone, (one of their friends),
asked why I didn't sell my home . . .
and just move here.

4 comments:

amanda said...

Thinking of you! There is nothing harder than trying to keep it together while watching your parents fall apart!

Sue said...

I don't even know what to say, other than I'm thinking of you and sending you strength to keep on doing what you're doing. And remind you that you have a break coming up very soon.

Judy said...

I am so sorry.
I remember what it's like and ACHE for you.

Rudee said...

This is such a moving post. While we don't deal with physical abuse from my father in law, the verbal and psychological abuse is there in abundance.

I won't pray for strength for you, as I believe we only get tested if we do so, but I will pray for insight and wisdom on how to cope.

Hang in there, Alice.